Pleasant surprise vs Unpleasant surprise

Living my life for the last 27 years, I've come across many pleasant surprises and unpleasant surprises. Any unexpected event would count as a surprise. Then what would determine what is pleasant and what is not?

I wish there were an absolute standard I could peak at, or maybe an ideal, unbiased, omniscient, and fair judge who can determine what should be pleasant and unpleasant.
As an absolute follower type, I would simply apply those rules and use them as a guide, yet I still haven't found anyone who would make a decision for me on whether I should take this unexpected event as a pleasant incident that stimulates my heart or as a depressant that only stimulates my dark side.

Looking back on several instances of these events, I conclude it's totally biased on one's feelings. It's not something that is based on 'reason' but 'emotion,' which is quite striking to me as I categorize myself as a type A, gong dol ee, nerd proud, logical, reasonable, principle-oriented being who gives absolutely no regards to normal people's kind of joke and insist on my kind of jokes, which are rather informative or simply 'unexpected' in the situation or out of context yet somewhat related, which I often find amusing while others simply find no connection from my newly provided information to what was being discussed at that time and ignore completely.

What I generally enjoy - like meeting an old friend would be a pleasant surprise. But if someone reacts to me in a completely unexpected way, which is not in line with my philosophy or what I pursue as an ideal state of the world, it would count as an unpleasant surprise.

Depending on what kind of reaction to surprise you 'generate,' you may be able to make it a pleasant event if the surprise is in fact in the borderline. But what if it's blatantly unpleasant? As a mature person, I ought to look at the big picture, control my emotion, think of the context and my reaction's impact to the current situation, and even have the insight to determine which way I want to sway the other person, and employ the best persuasive yet subtle mechanism to handle the situation in a way I want. However, being as immature as I am, I often 'think' I am suppressing my emotions and talk in neutral tone, while the other would instantly notice what is obviously being conveyed through my not so bland physiognomy and abnormally neutral, or cold, tone, making the situation only worse, accomplishing nothing but more agony and pain for everyone.

In any event, it is always a blessing to have people around me who cheer me up, and show the other side of the world. While living in yorganic land, I would have never guessed there was a yolicious place, had I not been given this blessing of meeting wonderful people.

God seems to be giving me messages these days through different ways but pretty clear ways, which are a bit too personal and shameful to talk about, but I have been resisting very hard, twisting my own words to get around the promise I made to Him when I was desperate. I suggest we should not make easy promises to God as he WILL remember it...and frequently remind us when we fail to carry it out.
very inttaraasting......