Living my life for the last 27 years, I've come across many pleasant surprises and unpleasant surprises. Any unexpected event would count as a surprise. Then what would determine what is pleasant and what is not?
I wish there were an absolute standard I could peak at, or maybe an ideal, unbiased, omniscient, and fair judge who can determine what should be pleasant and unpleasant.
As an absolute follower type, I would simply apply those rules and use them as a guide, yet I still haven't found anyone who would make a decision for me on whether I should take this unexpected event as a pleasant incident that stimulates my heart or as a depressant that only stimulates my dark side.
Looking back on several instances of these events, I conclude it's totally biased on one's feelings. It's not something that is based on 'reason' but 'emotion,' which is quite striking to me as I categorize myself as a type A, gong dol ee, nerd proud, logical, reasonable, principle-oriented being who gives absolutely no regards to normal people's kind of joke and insist on my kind of jokes, which are rather informative or simply 'unexpected' in the situation or out of context yet somewhat related, which I often find amusing while others simply find no connection from my newly provided information to what was being discussed at that time and ignore completely.
What I generally enjoy - like meeting an old friend would be a pleasant surprise. But if someone reacts to me in a completely unexpected way, which is not in line with my philosophy or what I pursue as an ideal state of the world, it would count as an unpleasant surprise.
Depending on what kind of reaction to surprise you 'generate,' you may be able to make it a pleasant event if the surprise is in fact in the borderline. But what if it's blatantly unpleasant? As a mature person, I ought to look at the big picture, control my emotion, think of the context and my reaction's impact to the current situation, and even have the insight to determine which way I want to sway the other person, and employ the best persuasive yet subtle mechanism to handle the situation in a way I want. However, being as immature as I am, I often 'think' I am suppressing my emotions and talk in neutral tone, while the other would instantly notice what is obviously being conveyed through my not so bland physiognomy and abnormally neutral, or cold, tone, making the situation only worse, accomplishing nothing but more agony and pain for everyone.
In any event, it is always a blessing to have people around me who cheer me up, and show the other side of the world. While living in yorganic land, I would have never guessed there was a yolicious place, had I not been given this blessing of meeting wonderful people.
God seems to be giving me messages these days through different ways but pretty clear ways, which are a bit too personal and shameful to talk about, but I have been resisting very hard, twisting my own words to get around the promise I made to Him when I was desperate. I suggest we should not make easy promises to God as he WILL remember it...and frequently remind us when we fail to carry it out.
very inttaraasting......
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This post is awfully profound and intricate and in fact very inttaraasting. Your writing is free in expression and filled with details and it's very refreshing to read something that flows so well without any interruption or breaks. Although there are many paragraphs and sentences, after reading through the whole thing, i feel as though I have not taken a single breath. This is a splendid piece of writing and should be preserved in the natural museum of yolicious writing.
ReplyDeleteAs a person who is often the giver of surprises, I often get the reaction from the other person, whether it was pleasant or unpleasant. In the past I have thought that since the giver of surprises made an effort to surprise, the receiver should always "act" in a pleasant way, regardless of how they felt emotionally. But this line of thinking is a very selfish one from the giver's perspective. The receiver has total freedom to accept a surprise as pleasant or unpleasant, and it should be totally fine for the receiver to express this emotion to the giver.
At times though, the giver also intends on surprising, and at other times the giver does not intend, but just surprises as a consequence of their indecisions and irrational line of thinking.
It's my belief that, when two indecisive, yet judgemental, people get together to discuss and "decide" on something, it's often the case that both will suffer in the end.
When one indecisive person, and one decisive person gets together, and the indecisive person is initiating an action, I believe it's often the case that this results in both people suffering as well.
When one indecisive person, and one decisive person gets together, and the decisive person is initiating an action, I believe it's often the case that this results in both people being happy, with the indecisive one "pretending" to be happy.
When two decisive people get together, it's often the case that they will both be happy all the time, or argue until they feel better :)
So... in general, as an indecisive person, I'm usually unhappy.... this was not the original intent of my comment posting, but why does it have to end on a sad note... ehyoo.. inttaraasting.
Your fantastic comment deserves to merit its own posting and not as a comment, while you may even want to give it a title, 'Decisive person vs Indecisive person'
ReplyDeleteThe Matrix Analysis you provided on the interactions between the two types provide such insight which any sensible non-social outcast would appreciate. 'Pretending' part itself shall be put into 'Insights of the century' book, which is also preserved in the museum of naturally yolicious people.
While writing this comment, it has hit me that by sleeping until 12pm, missnig the sofa event as well as the breakfast with wonderful people, I have caused an unpleasant surprise by not showing up. It is somewhat inttarraasting to note that you don't have to 'create' something to generate surprises, but by 'not creating' certain events, you can also generate surprises, unless my no-show was totally expected and counted for in the plan.
You guys think too much. Kekekeke.
ReplyDelete- someone who does not think too much
Your absence was an unpleasant surprise because we missed out on your pleasantly surprising sense of humor.
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